The legal vows that must be spoken for your marriage to be valid in Australia are very simple: “I, AB/CD, take you, CD/AB to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/spouse/partner for life”. But adding personal vows is a lovely way to make your ceremony especially meaningful for the two of you. It’s always wonderful when couples write their own vows, but there are many examples that your celebrant can provide or you can find for yourselves on the Internet.
“I promise if there’s only one TimTam left, I’ll let you have it.”
“I promise to love you even when you make me so mad, I hate you.”
I always encourage my couples to include personal vows in their ceremony. If you would like to compose your own but don’t know where to start, I suggest writing a letter to your beloved saying everything that you love about them, then pick a few sentences out of that letter and play with the words until you feel that they say just want you want when exchanging personal vows.
You can include personal vows either before or after the legal vows and these can be separate from or part of the ring ceremony – if you are going to have rings (this is completely optional). However you want to do it, it’s your choice but your celebrant will guide you so that the ceremony flows well.
Just remember that this is your day, your wedding, and your declaration to your love. So why not include personal vows?